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Monday, February 11, 2013
Conodoguinet Creek in Franklin County PA runs right through the Roxbury Camp where we held our Winter retreat
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"The Blessing Of Affirming Words"
Marriage series: We celebrate Valentine's Day on Thursday and this week we will share a series of messages with the main points based on Gary Chapman's book, "The Five Love Languages". In doing so we will use the outline of the five languages, featuring a different one each day. This week we want to provide messages that will strengthen marriages. However most of these points will apply to all relationships.
"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen" (Ephesians 4:29).
Yesterday we participated in our Sunday School winter class retreat at Roxbury Camp and shared a message with the couples. We illustrated the blessing of affirming words by using "Mr. Wonderful", a talking male figure with a broad smile and huge feet. Brooksyne presented Mr. Wonderful to me in 2004 during the Valentine season. We've had a lot of fun and found illustrative value now for almost 9 years and he still works!
Yesterday I shared how Mr. Wonderful gave me some ideas on words and phrases that are a blessing to Brooksyne. When pressing his hand in his charming, masculine voice he utters phrases such as, "No, honey, you don't look fat in that dress. You don't look fat in anything you wear." Or "Darling, take all the time you need. I don't mind waiting one bit."
It appears in the photo above that Mr. Wonderful is uttering one of those female pleasing phrases (notice my "ouch" grimace and her adoring smile). Brooksyne was so taken with Mr. Wonderful that she bought Mr. Wonderful II the following year. He gets me into even more trouble when he says things like, "Did you have a hard day, Honey. Why don't you sit down and let me massage your feet?" Or "Actually, I don't know which way to go. I'll just turn in here and ask directions" (so, not me - I don't even like the GPS telling me where to go)! How many of you men would say, "Here, you take the remote. As long as I'm with you I don't care what we watch." Or the most incriminating, "You're going shopping by yourself, Honey? How about if I tag along just to carry your bags?"
We visited the Shady Maple Gift Shop a couple years ago and I saw a sign advertising Mrs. Wonderful. I got all excited about blessing Brooksyne with Mrs. Wonderful (thinking it was my turn to get blessed). But unfortunately once I reached the display I found they were out of them. But there were only more Mr. Wonderfuls staring me in the face. I'd had enough of that guy already! (Brooksyne's edit: I was secretly relieved when I saw Mrs. Wonderful was not available.)
Now, what spiritual truth am I going to get out of this story, you may wonder. Mr. Wonderful is an animated figure designed to build up the wife according to her needs (although he might be a bit insincere as to what a man is really like).
Paul exhorts the believer in Ephesians 4:29 to do three things:
Unwholesome talk - Paul is writing about one very small but powerful part of our body. The tongue! So much is accomplished with our tongue, for good or evil. Unwholesome talk includes that of malicious gossip, cruel teasing, profanity, obscenities, and other unwholesome communication in addition to the tone we engender as we speak.
Build Others Up - When conversation flows from a gracious, principled heart it will build others up, including our spouse. When we consider other's interests more important than our own we will look out for them, listen to them, and serve them in a way that encourages and lifts them from their heaviness of heart (Philippians 2:4).
Benefit those who listen - Our conversation with our spouse or a fellow believer goes far beyond the few moments we spend speaking with one another. What we say to one another can have a lasting impact that either builds up (edifies) or tears them down.
In our marriage and in all relationships may we be characterized by affirming words!
Be encouraged today,
Stephen & Brooksyne Weber
Daily prayer: Father, we desire to communicate with our spouses, family members and other people in a way that builds up and benefits those who listen. As we establish Biblical principles in our heart, they will act as filters for that which flows from our tongue. We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. Amen.
Here are the five "Love Languages" we will deal with this week:
1) Affirming Words
2) Quality Time
3) Thoughtful Gifts
4) Cooperative Service
5) Physical Intimacy
Now with nearly thirty-seven years of marital experience Brooksyne and I will add one. Tease each other and have fun!
Mike, a friend of ours with a sense of humor shared these potential statements a "Mrs. Wonderful" doll might say. I might add he's happily married!
Nelson was up early in the morning grilling potatoes, veggies, and shrimp over a hot ring of fire just like we have on our annual men and boys campout. How I wish we could post the appetizing smells!
Larry, carefully inspecting his dishwashing skills, with his LED headlights. (Ruby, another class member, in background.) One of the things that has impressed Brooksyne over the years is how the men are often the first ones to line up for dishwashing duty following a meal at the church. But "Mrs. Wonderful" (had I found her that day) would never compare her husband's lack in this area to men who might be more willing to clean up in the kitchen.
Our Sunday School class enjoying breakfast together in the cabin.
Today's Suggested Music and Supplemental Resources
"Glorious Freedom" Video Gaither Vocal Band
"The Five Love Languages" can be ordered at Amazon or many other sources.
For the geographically curious, our weekend retreat was held at Roxbury Camp at the base of Blue mountain where the first tunnel is located as you are going west on the PA Turnpike. (See here for location on Google map)
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