Daily Encouragement Net
For Premarital
Session
Interview with three couples married
50 years or more
Two
couples may be acquaintances. A third couple should be unknown to you
personally.
You may
ask the same questions to each couple, or target certain questions. You
are free to make up your own questions based on your own experience as a young couple.
You may certainly add to this list anything that is of personal concern to you
that a couple committed to a life-time marriage may shed light on.
Write a
summarization of your experience and the major thoughts shared with you that
you want to apply to your marriage from each interview.
Assignment
is due on Thursday, February 10. We'll have a meal together as well at 6:30 P.M.
1. What attracted you to your spouse (personality
traits, gifts, appearance, etc.)?
- What
are the major differences in your outlook, interests or personalities?
- What
measures have you taken to deal with your differences in a positive way?
- When
you have differences of opinion how do you make the decision where both
parties are accepting of the outcome?
- How do you
deal with the "submission" aspect of the wife to the husband?
- How has
your spouse fulfilled you?
- Where
has God made a difference in your marriage?
- When
you've had a major argument how do you handle the emotional
outburst? What steps do you take to resolve the conflict?
- What
steps did you take to become an individual family unit – in other words
"leaving father and mother and cleaving to your wife."
What guidelines did you follow in setting up your ongoing relationship
with in-laws and your parents that would keep you close and honoring your
parents but allow you to put your spouse and future children before their
needs or desires?
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How did you deal with childrearing experiences since your backgrounds may
have been different in the disciplines expected and carried out by your
parents than that of your spouse's? Who was the main disciplinarian?
- Was
there ever a period in your marriage where you felt you couldn't go on
dealing with a matter that might easier if your marriage was
dissolved? Please elaborate.
- If
you could only give three brief answers to the question, "What has
kept you happily married for --- years, what would you say?
- How did
your roles play out in your marriage? (Homemaker, breadwinner, etc.)
- Were
there any verses or inspiring words that helped you give your all to your
marriage?
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