Daily Encouragement Net

 

For Premarital Session

Interview with three couples married 50 years or more

 

Two couples may be acquaintances.  A third couple should be unknown to you personally.

 

You may ask the same questions to each couple, or target certain questions.  You are free to make up your own questions based on your own experience as a young couple.  You may certainly add to this list anything that is of personal concern to you that a couple committed to a life-time marriage may shed light on.

 

Write a summarization of your experience and the major thoughts shared with you that you want to apply to your marriage from each interview.

 

Assignment is due on Thursday, February 10.  We'll have a meal together as well at 6:30 P.M.

 

1.  What attracted you to your spouse (personality traits, gifts, appearance, etc.)?

 

  1.  What are the major differences in your outlook, interests or personalities?

 

  1. What measures have you taken to deal with your differences in a positive way?

 

  1. When you have differences of opinion how do you make the decision where both parties are accepting of the outcome?

 

  1. How do you deal with the "submission" aspect of the wife to the husband?

 

  1. How has your spouse fulfilled you?

 

  1. Where has God made a difference in your marriage?

 

  1. When you've had a major argument how do you handle the emotional outburst?  What steps do you take to resolve the conflict?

 

  1. What steps did you take to become an individual family unit – in other words "leaving father and mother and cleaving to your wife."  What guidelines did you follow in setting up your ongoing relationship with in-laws and your parents that would keep you close and honoring your parents but allow you to put your spouse and future children before their needs or desires?

 

  1.   How did you deal with childrearing experiences since your backgrounds may have been different in the disciplines expected and carried out by your parents than that of your spouse's?  Who was the main disciplinarian?

 

  1. Was there ever a period in your marriage where you felt you couldn't go on dealing with a matter that might easier if your marriage was dissolved?  Please elaborate.

 

  1.  If you could only give three brief answers to the question, "What has kept you happily married for --- years, what would you say?

 

  1. How did your roles play out in your marriage?  (Homemaker, breadwinner, etc.)

 

  1. Were there any verses or inspiring words that helped you give your all to your marriage?

 

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